Monday, November 30, 2009

Cowboy & Wills Book Giveaway

I was happy to receive a copy of Cowboy & Wills by Monica Holloway to review. On the surface, the book appears to be a classic tale of a boy and his dog. But in reality, it is the true story of a boy with autism (Wills) and the dog (Cowboy) that changed the trajectory of his life.

To be honest, I initially thought that I would have trouble relating to this mother's memoir. Wills has very high functioning autism and the family has the resources to supply him with private school, therapies and an aide. However, at the end of chapter one, the author says the same phrase that I'm sure every mother of a child on the spectrum has uttered at one time or another, "I wish love cured autism." This simple statement unifies us all, no matter how different our experiences may be.

Cowboy & Wills is both a quick read and an emotional journey. This memoir is peppered with humor as well as tender moments that will tug at your heartstrings. I don't want to give too much of the story away, but I will confess to suppressing a very strong urge to visit the animal shelter to get a puppy for my little guy. This is a great read for anyone affected by autism and will certainly appeal to dog lovers as well.

Click here to watch the book trailer on YouTube.

Enter to win a free copy of Cowboy & Wills!

To enter the giveaway, simply leave a comment below. The winner will be selected at random and will be announced in the comments section below on Monday, December 7th. The winner will need to claim their prize within 24 hours by sending an email to me at Chrissy(at)SpectrumHope.com with their mailing address. Be sure to check back on Monday to see if you won!

Saturday, November 21, 2009

Didn't See That Coming!

A few weeks ago, we all caught the H1N1 virus. Oh, the misery! I was especially worried for Jake because he has asthma. I was able to control his cough pretty well with nebulizer treatments. In fact, his lungs managed this flu better than many simple colds he has had in the past. But there was a complication to this flu that I definitely never would have imagined...

Like all of us, Jake lost his appetite when his flu symptoms began. He wouldn't eat anything at all and refused all drinks except for water. The rest of us regained our appetites within a day or two, but not Jake. I couldn't get his supplements into him and his autism just took over. After a couple of days, he even began refusing water. He wound up not eating at all for 2 weeks and had an 8 day hospital stay.

We tried everything to get him to eat or drink. I brought all of his favorites from home and the hospital was kind enough to keep a steady supply of his beloved chips and french fries delivered to his room, but he only got more upset when offered anything. We turned his IV off for a day, hoping it would make him thirsty, but that didn't work. He was put on medication to relax him, but that didn't help. We started him on Risperdal to increase his appetite, but he still refused to eat or drink.

The situation was desperate. Jake had lost 25% of his body weight. He has always been a skinny kid, but at this point he was wasting away to nothing. The next option would be to insert an NG tube and keep him restrained (so he wouldn't pull it out). I wanted to avoid that if at all possible, because it would just be so horrible for him.

Throughout his hospital stay, I had focused on keeping him calm with the hope that his appetite would return and he would begin to eat. Clearly, this strategy was not working. So it was time to up the ante a bit. I let the nurse know that I was going to try something different and she would probably hear Jake having a meltdown. She gave me the okay to do what I had to do.

In the past, when Jake was uncooperative, I would offer him a choice. One option is the thing I really need him to do and the other is a far less desirable option for him. This doesn't always work, but I felt like it was worth a shot. One of the things that Jake hates most in the world is taking medicine. I filled a syringe with apple juice (which he doesn't like, so it might as well have been yucky medicine). I sat next him on the hospital bed and gave him a choice of taking one bite of a french fry or having 'medicine'. He had a major meltdown and refused both choices. I had to follow through with this, so I held him down and syringed the juice into his mouth.

I continued to offer these choices to him and eventually he willingly accepted the syringed juice. It wasn't ideal, but I hoped that having something in his stomach would stimulate his appetite. I continued to syringe juice, milk substitutes and protein shakes. By the next night, he agreed to eat again but would only do so if I fed him.

He was allowed to come home from the hospital, with me as his human IV. He refused to self-feed or drink, so I continued syringing liquids and feeding him his solids. Over the course of several days, I coached him on eating and drinking and eventually he was able to do it himself.

The Risperdal has dramatically increased his appetite, but his other autism symptoms were better managed with the supplement protocol. He has regained the weight he lost so I will begin weaning him off of the Risperdal soon and I am slowly resuming the supplements.

That's what I've been up to for the last month. Things are finally beginning to get back to normal around here, but I am still playing catch up with work. I have some giveaways planned in the coming weeks...so watch for new posts!

Thursday, October 15, 2009

Did I Do This?

I suppose I've become known as the local 'autism mom'. I've been traveling the spectrum with my son for a few years now and I've never kept it a secret. In my little town, if your child was just diagnosed, someone is probably going to tell you to call me. Though I hate the pain these moms are experiencing, I am truly grateful for the opportunity to support them as they begin their journey.

We can all remember how awful those early days were. Whether or not you knew the diagnosis was coming, you probably felt like you'd been hit by a truck when the verdict was finally delivered. It is a scary, lonely, miserable time. It seems like every mom I meet with a new diagnosis has the telltale red, puffy eyes. I know the feeling. I looked the same way for an entire year.

When these moms come to me for help, they all ask the same thing: "Did I do this?"

Did I bond enough with him enough when he was a baby? Did I let her watch too much TV? Did I breastfeed long enough? Was it the coffee I drank when I was pregnant? Did I do this?

I went through the same thing in the beginning. When my son was diagnosed, I retraced everything that happened during my pregnancy and his life up to that point. I relentlessly looked for what I did wrong to cause him to have this disorder. It is one of the most painful processes to endure during the first few months on the spectrum. Intellectually, I know that I did not cause the autism. But even now, the doubts creep up on me occasionally and I have to make an effort to push them away. That unwarranted guilt is not only a waste of time, but it can be incredibly destructive.

The fact is we do not know what causes autism. It could be something in the vaccines, junk in our food, chemicals in our environment, or genetics. It might be caused by a combination of all of these things or it might be caused by something else entirely.

As moms, we are quite skilled at finding things to feel guilty about. With so many unknowns about autism, it is understandable that we would blame ourselves for our child's condition. Let me assure you, there is one thing that we know for certain: Mothers are not to blame for autism.

Monday, October 5, 2009

1 in 91

It's been all over the news, the rate of autism is now estimated at 1 in 91. For boys, the rate is even higher at 1 in 58.

We've been shouting from the rooftops that the 1 in 150 statistic was grossly outdated. That number came from a 2003 study. Our new numbers come from a 2007 study. The rate of autism has nearly doubled in the time between these two studies. As we near the end of 2009, what do you suppose the current rate of autism is? It just keeps climbing and climbing.

Regarding the enormous increase in autism, Kathleen Sebelius, Secretary of the Department of Health and Human Services, said, "We have no idea why."

Really? No idea, huh?

I have an idea.

Friday, October 2, 2009

Let's Help Lend4Health.org!

Have you heard about Lend4Health? It is a labor of love started by Tori Tuncan. Through Lend4Health, Tori facilitates interest-free microloans to help families fund biomedical treatment for autism and related disorders. To date, Lend4Health has managed to fully fund 58 loans and currently has 18 open loan requests. Please take a look at Lend4Health to see the great work going on.

I am a big fan of this program because it directly helps individual children receive much needed treatment for autism. Lenders are able to learn about these children and then select one or more to lend to. With the microloan format, lenders are able to lend as little as $1 or as much as they are comfortable with. It is important to note that not one single loan recipient has defaulted on their loan repayment plan. And, a whopping 85% of loan recipients make their payments either on time or early!

I am pleased to announce a fundraiser for Lend4Health. For the month of October, I will donate 10% of the proceeds from my Discovery Toys website. Christmas is right around the corner! Get a jump start on your holiday shopping and help a great cause at the same time.

You can also help by sharing this information with your friends and family. Please post the link to my Discovery Toys store on your favorite social networking sites. My fellow bloggers can help by spreading the word of this fundraiser to their readers. This is a wonderful way to greatly impact the lives of children affected by autism. You can make a difference!

Here's the direct link to my store: http://www.discoverytoyslink.com/spectrumplay

Thanks for spreading the word. Remember, the more toys we sell, the bigger the donation to Lend4Health!

Wednesday, September 30, 2009

Life on the Spectrum

An article that I wrote is featured in the October issue of Crystal Coast Parent Magazine. It's titled, "Life on the Spectrum: Raising a Child with Autism."

You can view the article here.

Feel free to leave a comment about it. I'd love to hear what you think.

It's exciting to see more coverage about autism in mainstream media. I'm thrilled to be able to contribute to that coverage.